Tag Archive | perfection

Jagged lines

We want what we do to be perfect from the start
We feel the need to succeed right away

But no success has come without trials
There is beauty in the imperfect climb
People who succeed
Have failed many time
They know how not to get discouraged
And stay focussed

They keep their eyes on the goal
And keep climbing
Detours and road blocks are
Part of the climb

If we keep doing something long enough
And improve as we go along
There is no way we can’t succeed
And the jagged lines of our climb
Make our path beautiful and unique

 

March 2016inukshuk

Perfect?

We need not be perfect!

Where does this idea that perfect is good
That it’s the desired goal
Come from?
Why are we not comfortable with our flaws?

Perhaps it’s because not many
Successful people speak of their flaws
What we see on the outside
The perfect picture
Does not reflect what is inside

The reality is that visible or not
We all have limitations
We all have failed and cried
We all have messed up!

Perfect does not exist
And perhaps it should not
We learn from our imperfections and mistakes
They can be areas we work on

Normally, we don’t show our inadequacies
It’s just not done
What would others think?
Would they judge us?

Yet, it’s our foibles and flaws
That make us human and normal
Nobody is good at everything
That person does not exist
So, let’s be authentic
And talk about our failings and challenges sometimes

I guarantee that the sky won’t fall
And that we will be loved despite our flaws

Authenticity

“Vulnerability is the birth place of love, creativity
joy, and belonging”

One has to risk rejection to find love
One has to be open to trying something new and untested
to be creative
One has to have known sorrow to know joy
One as to share one’s weaknesses to be welcomed
into an authentic relationship with someone else

It’s easy to show our happy, together,
confident, optimistic side
It takes courage to show our pain, sorrow,
insecurities, and doubts

It’s easy to play it safe, afraid of making a mistake
It takes courage to take a leap of faith

It’s easy to decide when the outcome is clear
It’s more difficult to accept the uncertainties of life

I used to want a letter from God
telling me which way to go and what to choose
I now know that growth comes from making the
best decision with the information I have
knowing that it may not lead me to the desired destination right away
but that eventually I’ll find my way

Life is not a straight line
It’s a jagged line
or perhaps it’s a meandering river
going to the right or the left sometimes
but all the way adjusting its course
to reach the ocean in time

And the way to accept this perceived imperfection
in our path in life is to realise
that in any case
we are worthy of love
and we will be loved!

Lida Berghuis
December 16th, 2014

*Brene Brown

Behind the mask…

inukshuk

In our lives
We wear various masks
To appear ‘normal’
To look ‘happy’

So many people wear the mask of ‘normal’
That we feel we will stand out if we don’t
So many of us put on a show
That the show appears to be reality

But so often behind the mask of happy
Hides an injured heart, a despondent soul
Someone looking for love

When one of us takes off the mask of perfection
Admits to having challenges, needing support
It’s easier for someone else to do the same
And if this process happens enough times
We will feel less inclined to hide
Hide our true feelings
Hide our distress
Hide what’s bothering us
Pretend we’re fine!

Lida Berghuis
December 15th, 2014

The art of life…

The art of life…
The hardest art to master
The lessons start when we are young
And never end like any other art!

This art’s techniques are endless
Kindness, compassion, love, honesty
Generosity, curiosity, persistence and so on
These techniques we can learn early on
But to perfect them, one needs time

There are many teachers we come across
Each teaches us something new and exciting
But mastery comes only with practice
And that part is up to us!

There may be times we wish to start a piece
We are creating over again
Times when we look at an older piece
And wonder, ‘where was my head’
Some pieces take a very long time
Some pieces feel inspired and need no effort at all!

But if we persevere
If we work hard
We can create such beauty with this art!
And old pieces may not look perfect
But they were part of the process
And we never start perfect!

Lida Berghuis
October 12th, 2014

Inspired by a talk by Herbie Hancock
On creativity and art

A work in progress!

“You’ve got to let people know if their words hurt you
Staying silent at such times
When emotions churn like torrents in your heart
Is not a good thing!”

Apparently this is called being passive
And I know that it’s not a good thing
In fact, it’s a problematic thing!

The problem with being passive
Is that I pretend to be fine
But I’m anything but fine!

The problem with being passive
Is that I smile
But in reality, I’m ready to cry!

The problem with being passive
Is that I feel powerless
Attacked, yet unable to respond
I don’t want to attack back, just respond
I wear the mask of indifference or being content
But under the mask, I’m boiling mad!

The problem is that this takes me back to when I was a child
And I could not communicate my needs and wants
I sometimes felt powerless back then too, but didn’t even know what was wrong

So, what am I to do now
When I know more than I did before
I just need to feel strong enough
To speak up!
To let someone know I’m not feeling fine
That I feel angry and hurt
That I’m a sensitive soul
And sometimes feel too much!

This is a work in progress for me
I’m much better than I used to be
Most times, I can speak up and speak my mind
I can respond if I feel criticised and feel that
There is more to the story, and we need to talk

But sometimes still
When something comes out of the left field
When I don’t expect it
I can still be taken aback
Be silenced into submission
Feel powerless
Feel wronged!

And that’s OK too
Because life is a school of sorts
Learning never really ends
One does not attain perfection!
One is always a work in progress!

So, I try to learn from my experience and move on
I’m sure I’ll be tested one more time
And then I can show what I’ve learned
And what I still need to work on!

Lida Berghuis
September 16th, 2014

To all the responsible moms!

Take a minute to be silly
You can still be silly you know!

Procrastinate a little bit
It’s OK to miss a deadline once in a while!

Let the dishes pile up
The world won’t fall apart!

Watch a movie instead of paying the bills
Tomorrow is another day!

Don’t feel like cooking tonight?
Take out was made for a reason!

Even responsible people need to have some fun
Goof off, forget things, mess up!
No one can be together all the time!

There are times for being organized
On time and efficient
And there are times for being less than perfect
Life goes on

We put so much pressure on ourselves
We want to do everything right
We want to be there for everyone
And sometimes we forget that the world
Can go on without us for a while

Lida Berghuis
November 28, 2013