Tag Archive | belonging

Belonging

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Does anyone feel like they belong?
Don’t each of us feel like outsiders sometime, somewhere?
If we’re in touch with different groups of people
We’re bound to feel like we don’t belong

How does it feel to belong?
It’s feeling accepted and loved despite our flaws

It’s having our uniqueness and individuality acknowledged

And feeling accepted means not feeling judged
But feeling encouraged and celebrated

December 23rd, 2018

Complicated identities

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We need not have one category to fit in

We can have complicated identities

As a result of living in various countries

Speaking various languages

Having various roles

We can fit in many different worlds

Instead of being worried because we don’t

Fully fit in one box

We should be happy

We fit in a few boxes

That doesn’t dilute our identity

It enriches it

 

November 18th, 2018

I belong

We feel the need to belong

To be accepted

To be similar to those around us

To fit in

But what if we embrace otherness

Accept the uniqueness of our experiences

The difference in the colour of our skin

Or the country we come from

Realizing that underneath

All these seeming differences

We are one

We all come from Africa

The devisions we have created 

Are manmade

Differences can be good if we accept them

And are aware of the underlying oneness

I belong to the human family

And my experiences in life

Make me the unique human being that I am

And that uniqueness

That otherness

Is on the surface

Deep inside we are all one

And when I understand that 

I will feel like I belong

No matter where I am

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Belonging

 

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We all want to belong

It’s a little harder when you are visibly or obviously

The odd one out

But that sense of belonging

Comes from within

It’s not always imposed from outside

If I feel like I belong

I act like I belong

And most people will treat me

Like I belong

Yes, there are times when others

Can make me feel like the odd one out

By what they say or what they do

But most of the time

How I see myself is the key, what counts

 

 

One family

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Do I fit in here or there?

Do I belong here or there?

Questions I once asked myself

How about I fit in here and there

I belong here and there

I also belong to a group of people

Who have grown up here and there

There are other people like me out there

They are also my community

At the root of it all though

We are all human beings

Who belong to the same family

 

Sept. 5th, 2018

The collage

 

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A second book
Another essay on life
My life
With its challenges and trials
With lessons learned
With hope and optimism
Written with love

The collage of me
Is a collage of prose and poetry
The coming together of various experiences
And exploration of various cultures
Of Travel
Of connections
Of fellowship and camaraderie

It tries to answer the questions
Who am I?
And where do I belong?

It explores issues of identity and immigration
And the coming together of East and West
And the essential oneness of man

Removing barriers

Rediscovering my homeland from afar
Sometimes I feel like a tourist in my own town
There are also things I’m discovering for the first time
Technology makes this possible now

I travel to my place of birth everyday
And hang out with my friends
I learn about them and their experiences
There is good and bad everywhere
And there are challenges there as there are anywhere else

What I’m experiencing with my friends
Which is special though
Is an openness that’s new to me
My friends accept me as I am and
I feel a sense of belonging

I missed this feeling in my childhood
The feeling that I could share all that was dear to me
There was always this barrier between us
A divide in understanding

Time and distance, and new experiences
Have removed this barrier
And in some ways now, in a land far off
I feel closer to my countrymen

June 26th, 2017

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Authenticity

“Vulnerability is the birth place of love, creativity
joy, and belonging”

One has to risk rejection to find love
One has to be open to trying something new and untested
to be creative
One has to have known sorrow to know joy
One as to share one’s weaknesses to be welcomed
into an authentic relationship with someone else

It’s easy to show our happy, together,
confident, optimistic side
It takes courage to show our pain, sorrow,
insecurities, and doubts

It’s easy to play it safe, afraid of making a mistake
It takes courage to take a leap of faith

It’s easy to decide when the outcome is clear
It’s more difficult to accept the uncertainties of life

I used to want a letter from God
telling me which way to go and what to choose
I now know that growth comes from making the
best decision with the information I have
knowing that it may not lead me to the desired destination right away
but that eventually I’ll find my way

Life is not a straight line
It’s a jagged line
or perhaps it’s a meandering river
going to the right or the left sometimes
but all the way adjusting its course
to reach the ocean in time

And the way to accept this perceived imperfection
in our path in life is to realise
that in any case
we are worthy of love
and we will be loved!

Lida Berghuis
December 16th, 2014

*Brene Brown

Connection!

We are super-connected
Yet, so disconnected at times
We have the technology
But to transform the world we live in
We need to add heart!
Because when hearts connect
There’’s nothing that can’’t be done!

We have the World Wide Web and the Cloud
We are connected to each other 24 hours a day
But the connection that we need
To change the world we live in
Is super low-tech!

This connection can be made with a smile
A shared moment of joy
It can be made with an eye contact
That acknowledges the other person

This connection is made by feeling the pain of someone who is in distress
Someone who needs a helping hand
And listening ear

For this connection, all one needs is love
A sense of belonging to the whole and
Being responsible for the welfare of all

So, as we get better connected technologically each day
Let’s not forget this most important connection

Lida Berghuis
October 12th, 2014

Inspired by:
Reimaging the world From scarcity to prosperity
Eliane Ubalijoro | TEDxConcordia