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Sometimes I think about my life

I realize it hasn’t followed the usual patterns we expect

 

I got married while I was a student

To another student

I married outside my culture

At a time when it was not so usual

 

I knew how to drive before my husband did

I changed my major many times

I chose to stay at home to raise my kids

At a time when most women worked outside the house

 

I moved from city to city several times

And when I went back to work

I only worked part time

 

I started writing poetry later in life

In a language that is not my mother tongue

I chose to write about mental health

We need to get rid of the stigma

 

Now, I’ve entered a new phase of life

With more emphasis on writing 

It’s a transition of sorts

I’m still trying to figure it out

 

All of these things make me a little different

Some things I’ve done are unconventional

But I’ve been lucky to have been able to choose my own path

I hope others understand

But if they don’t

I don’t mind

 

April 3rd, 2019

Belonging

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Does anyone feel like they belong?
Don’t each of us feel like outsiders sometime, somewhere?
If we’re in touch with different groups of people
We’re bound to feel like we don’t belong

How does it feel to belong?
It’s feeling accepted and loved despite our flaws

It’s having our uniqueness and individuality acknowledged

And feeling accepted means not feeling judged
But feeling encouraged and celebrated

December 23rd, 2018

Complicated identities

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We need not have one category to fit in

We can have complicated identities

As a result of living in various countries

Speaking various languages

Having various roles

We can fit in many different worlds

Instead of being worried because we don’t

Fully fit in one box

We should be happy

We fit in a few boxes

That doesn’t dilute our identity

It enriches it

 

November 18th, 2018

Where are you from?

imageWhere are you from

Is a much more complicated question

To answer now-a-days

In our shrinking world

Where we move easily from one country to the next

Where staying in the same city you were born in is rare

Where are you from

Is harder to answer

 

Where am I from?

Or where have I lived most of my life?

Where am I from?

What will that say about me?

It puts me in a comfortable category

But it won’t tell you who I am completely or

What experiences I’ve had

Where am I from?

I’ll tell you where as long as you don’t

Put me in a box or make assumptions

Which are not true

Where am I from?

The answer is not simple at all

 

November 17th, 2018

I belong

We feel the need to belong

To be accepted

To be similar to those around us

To fit in

But what if we embrace otherness

Accept the uniqueness of our experiences

The difference in the colour of our skin

Or the country we come from

Realizing that underneath

All these seeming differences

We are one

We all come from Africa

The devisions we have created 

Are manmade

Differences can be good if we accept them

And are aware of the underlying oneness

I belong to the human family

And my experiences in life

Make me the unique human being that I am

And that uniqueness

That otherness

Is on the surface

Deep inside we are all one

And when I understand that 

I will feel like I belong

No matter where I am

IMG_7178November 12th, 2018

Belonging

 

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We all want to belong

It’s a little harder when you are visibly or obviously

The odd one out

But that sense of belonging

Comes from within

It’s not always imposed from outside

If I feel like I belong

I act like I belong

And most people will treat me

Like I belong

Yes, there are times when others

Can make me feel like the odd one out

By what they say or what they do

But most of the time

How I see myself is the key, what counts