Perfect no more

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There was a time when I was a perfectionist

I would agonize over things

But that time is passed

I’ve learned we’re all imperfect

And it’s OK to acknowledge that

Perfection is a prison

Our ‘self’ is the prisoner

I left that prison some time in the past

Actually you can bond over your flaws with your friends

Isn’t it stressful to have a perfect friend?

We all strive for perfection

But we don’t have to reach it every time 

My knitting teacher told me long ago

That flaws are part of hand knitted things

It’s what sets them apart from machine made ones

It makes them unique and one of a kind

Now, I do what I do with heart and soul

But it’s OK if I don’t reach perfection

This is so liberating I find

Flaws are part of a well-lived life

February 23rd, 2021

An ocean of snow

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It’s an ocean of snow

Ripples in the snow are like gentle waves 

And amid this ocean of snow

Are standing you and I

Seemingly apart

Seemingly drowning in the white snowy landscape

But we are still standing tall

We have not given up

We are defying the odds

We have faith that spring will return

That the snow will melt

And that we will start our lives over again

February 2021

Covid 2

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Covid, covid, you’ve been with us for a year now

That’s a long time

That’s twelve months, 365 days, actually more

Are we used to you?

Somewhat

People can get used to the strangest of things

People can survive years in captivity

What we have with you is nothing like that

Yet we complain

We ask, where did our freedom go?

Where did our fun disappear to?

Why can’t we socialize like we used to?

We still have a lot of freedom though

We can zoom from morning till noon

iChat in the afternoon

Send messages on WhatsApp all day long 

We can socialize all we want

Yes, it’s different now

But just imagine what it would be like  

If we didn’t have the web?

February 1st, 2021

The vision quest

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The vision quest

I’ve only read about them

Going into the wilderness alone

Communing with nature

Listening to the voice of the ancestors

Contemplating one’s place in life

The vision quest

A right of passage

The gate to maturity and responsibility 

Seeking one’s animal guide

The vision quest

Reaching out to the Great Spirit

Asking questions

Listening attentively for answers

The vision quest

January 29th, 2021

Silence

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Silence

That’s all I hear

As he sits next to me

We are driving

The destination, unknown

I look at him

He’s pensive

Looking straight ahead

Sometimes he looks out the window

Still deep in thought

What does he see out there?

What is he thinking?

Is he upset?

Have I don’t something wrong?

Why so silent?

I ask him a question to start a dialogue 

He says he doesn’t feel like talking

He prefers to be silent

But his silence sounds like a scream to me

January 29th, 2021

Let’s talk

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How are you?

Are you feeling OK?

I’m not expecting to hear that you are fine

That you’re managing well

It’s OK if today you don’t feel well

How often do we ask how are you 

Expecting the same answer?

What should we do if the answer is not OK?

How can I help you we may say

Would you like to grab a coffee and talk?

I won’t give you advice

I won’t tell you to be thankful for all you have

I’ll simply listen and let you empty your cup

This is not always easy for me

The need to give advice is always there

But advice is not needed in these instances

Just acknowledging the hurt will do

Just letting someone know you care

And that they are not alone in their pain

I know this because I’ve been there

I’ve been the person who was not OK

And when my friends simply listened to me

They lifted my spirit and helped me persevere

Some problems can’t be fixed right away

The road to healing may be long

And what’s most important is to know

You have friends that you can count on

January 26th, 2021

The path

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One needs to listen to one’s heart

One needs to honour one’s spirit

There are many roads one can take in life

The choice is ours

There are many shoulds and musts

There are many social dictates

If we all went the same way

No new way would be found

Have faith in your choices 

Do what your hearts tells you to do

Of the many roads you can take

Choose the one that delights your heart

There will be foggy patches

There will be unpaved areas

There will be many an oasis

There will be delightful parts

Don’t judge the path other people take

Don’t worry about being judged

We each have different destinies

And we are the architects of our own lives

January 25th, 2021

The garden

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Where should I go for inspiration but to the Beloved?

Where should I turn my face to but to the beauty of the beloved?

Nowhere else is worthy is attention

Nowhere else will delight my heart

When there is a most perfect garden with dizzyingly fragrant flowers

A feast for the eyes and a balm for the soul

Why should I roam in the desert one minute longer?

The map has been drawn

The way has been shown

All that is left is to walk on the path 

That leads me to the Beloved

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