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What is love?

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What does love mean
After the initial giggles and butterflies?

What does love mean
Besides a huge emotional upheaval
That changes one’s life?

What does love mean
Besides the pain of separation
And joy of reunion?

What does love mean
Besides laughter and happy times?

It means I’ll love you despite your shortcomings
Because I have those too

It means I’ll hold you when you cry
Because that time will come

It means I’ll walk along side you on the stony path
Life is full of those

It means I’ll catch you when you fall
Because you might

It means I’ll sometimes put you before myself
That I won’t get my way each time

It means I’ll problem solve and compromise
That I’ll be your companion for life

Love mean I’ll work on our relationship each day
Because love needs nourishment

Love means we will walk this path together
Hand in hand, side by side

 

February 5th, 2018

takes the cake

When things you thought would never come to pass, do!
When people you thought you would never hear from again
Reappear in your life
When friendships that started years ago can continue to grow
When I have a connection to my homeland I never thought I would

It becomes clear to me again that life
Is full of surprises, difficult and joyous
That things can change in an instant
For better or worse
That one never knows what lies ahead
That technology is bringing the world together
In amazing ways

So thrilled to be in touch with my classmates
So proud to know what they have achieved
So happy that we can still be silly and laugh
So wonderful that we don’t take ourselves too seriously

Life is full of unexpected turns
And this connection certainly takes the cake!

Lida Berghuis
November 4th, 2015

Speak your mind…

Speak your mind…

Say what you mean
Mean what you say
You’ll be happier
And others as well…

Hiding your emotions
Hiding your concerns
Is not a sign of consideration
And kindness
It’s a form of deceiving others
And yourself

When you pretend to be happy when
Your’s sad
You’re wasting a lot of energy
Keeping up the facade

When someone says something hurtful
And you remain silent
You’re hiding your emotions from them

So, speak your mind
With tact and care
Because you don’t want to hurt others instead

But speak your mind
Live out loud
It will serve you well in the long run…

Lida Berghuis
August 6th, 2015

Behind the mask…

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In our lives
We wear various masks
To appear ‘normal’
To look ‘happy’

So many people wear the mask of ‘normal’
That we feel we will stand out if we don’t
So many of us put on a show
That the show appears to be reality

But so often behind the mask of happy
Hides an injured heart, a despondent soul
Someone looking for love

When one of us takes off the mask of perfection
Admits to having challenges, needing support
It’s easier for someone else to do the same
And if this process happens enough times
We will feel less inclined to hide
Hide our true feelings
Hide our distress
Hide what’s bothering us
Pretend we’re fine!

Lida Berghuis
December 15th, 2014

Acting happy, feeling sad*

A brilliant smile on my face
Only if I felt like that inside
Too hard to share my pain with others
I put on a happy front

Acting happy, feeling sad
Acting like everything is fine
What you see on the surface
Does not reflect what’s inside

Acting happy, feeling sad
Cannot share the turmoil within
Too much to explain
What would I say?
It’s easier just to smile

Acting happy, feeling sad
An actress in my own life
But the script was not written for me
I’m writing it as I go along

Acting happy, feeling sad
Feeling unauthentic and unreal
Tired of putting on a show
There is no joy in this smile!

Lida Berghuis

*This poem was written a while back when I felt down.
It can apply to other situations in which we hide
our true feelings from others.

Will you love me when I’m sad?

We think we are only lovable
When we are happy and all is fine
We think that others want to be around us
Only when we laugh and have fun

But in reality
Our true friends will love us even more
When our days are dark
And our emotions are low

They know we’re in pain
They know we don’t choose to be sad
They won’t abandon us
At times like that

I’ve been there too
Felt like that
Felt like I’m only lovable
When happy and glad

Felt like my tears would turn people away
Felt like my frown would bring them down

But those who loved me
Showed me I was wrong
They stood by me…
They held my hand when my hope was gone
When my days were cloudy and dark

I came to realise that we all have ups and downs
And the downs are what can bring us closer to those we love

We may feel not lovable at those times
We may wonder what’s wrong with us
We may be impatient with ourselves…
But not so our friends

They will love us back to health
They will give us a reason to go on
That’s what true friends are for
For happy times
But more so, for sad times

Lida Berghuis
November 26th, 2013

Angels on earth

Some people radiate positive energy
I’m happy when they are around
The warmth of their spirit can be felt
They shine like a brilliant light

There is a twinkle in their eyes
A spring in their step
There is a warmth in their touch
Which makes my heart melt

There is a sweetness in their voice
That can’t really be described
There is a tenderness in their heart
That can make me cry

These are angles that walk on earth
These are the souls that touch my heart