Archive | February 2011

Beginner!

Being a beginner at something
Keeps us humble
And can bring us joy
Joy of discovering something new
Joy of progress
And seeing things unfold

Being a beginner at something
Requires courage
We have to accept the awkwardness
The imperfections
The beginnerness!

Practice is needed
Perseverance is required
We won’t start perfect
Or even satisfactory
Need to be patient
Need to be kind to ourselves
Laugh at the mistakes
We will improve eventually!

Being a beginner
Liberating!
No expectations!
Doing something for pure joy!
Taking a chance
Jumping off
And getting out of
Our comfort zone!

Lida Berghuis
February 1st, 2011

I learned but I forgot!

I learned, but I forgot
I knew, but I forgot
I saw but I forgot

And so I pass the years of my life
Lessons learned are sometimes forgotten
Gems discovered, are covered by dust
What I saw clearly, is now blurred
What I thought I understood, clear as mud!

This I was told is the human condition
We usually don’’t learn right away
Sometimes we fall many times
Before we learn to look in front of us
Sometimes we burn our hands anyway
Even though we thought we’’d never do it again!

Forgetting is human
Erring is human
Learning slowly is human too

How can I remember better,
Learn faster
I thought

“Slowness remembers, hurry forgets”#
“Softness remembers, hardness forgets”
“Surrender remembers, fear forgets”

Lida Berghuis
February 20th, 2011

#Quotes from “Mark Nepo”
The book of Awakening

Me hung!!

Mommy, me hung, me hung!
English please?!
Mommy, you know!
I am hungry!
Could you make a snack for me?
Bread with chocopasta*
And some applesauce
That would really hit the spot!

Nicki, darling, you’re eleven years old
I’m sure you can do this on your own

Yes, I could
But it’s so much nicer
When you make it

Why don’t you get it yourself
It’s so easy, not complicated

It’s OK mom
I’ll wait for you
When you have time
Please remember, me hung!

Because you’re sweet
And diplomatic and kind
Because you give me
Kisses morning, noon and night
Because your hugs
Are so delicious, I say

I’ll make your snack for you
This time
But you’re growing up
You’ll make it next time!

Lida Berghuis
February 18th, 2011

*chocopasta = nutella in Dutch

Taking risks

My dad always said
In business, you need to take risks
You’ll win some
You’ll lose some
But you need to take risks to win!

I think in life
We need to take risks as well
In order to become better
In order to change

To do this
One needs to become comfortable
With losing
With being disappointed
With falling down

Life does not end with a loss
When you fall
You just get up!

To risk
One needs courage
The courage to try something different
A new thought
A new paradigm

One needs to be humble
Realize that one could be wrong
Be open to new ways of thought
Slowly, give them a try

The first steps
An a new path
Are the most difficult ones
Once on a path for a while
You wonder why you hesitated
At all

Growing and spreading your wings
Will never end
To new paths we should always
Be drawn

The comfort zone is good for a while
But it’s by accepting discomfort
That we fly!

Lida Berghuis
February 15th, 2011

‘Shoulds’ than strangle!

Shoulds that strangle*
Shoulds that entangle
Shoulds that stop us in our tracks
Shoulds that make us
Change our plans

Shoulds that are so deep within
That we don’t see them
Or know they exist

Shoulds of tradition
Shoulds of convention
Shoulds of fear
Fear of change

Shoulds that depress us
Shoulds that drown us
Shoulds that darken our
Days so bright

I’m throwing away these shoulds
These musts
Who makes these rules?
This is my life!

Should do this to be valued
Should do that to be good
Should not do this, or all is lost
Should not do that
No way at all!

It takes courage to
Throw away the shoulds
It takes belief in yourself

Life has a way of showing you
There are no shoulds
When it comes to being yourself

Who you are deep inside
Is marvelous
Is awesome!
Help mine those gems
They are there
That’s what life is all about!

And you know you’re doing what’s right
When your spirit begins to smile
When you hear the sweet voice
Of angels singing all around!

These are the shoulds I choose to live by:

Should be authentic!
Should be me!
Should discover what’s deep within
Should learn and explore
Should love and serve
Should make the world
A better place

Should be joyful
Should be grateful
Should know life has ups and downs
Should pay attention
Should meditate
Should pray
Should do yoga!

These are the shoulds I will live by
Not those that stifle
Those that hide
Hide my true nature
My talents
It’s time to be real
It’s time to fly!

Lida Berghuis
February 13th, 2011

*Inspired by the phrase: “Shoulds that strangle our passion and creativity”
In Finding Joy!

I choose joy!

Let’s not try to be perfect
Just good enough!
Let’s have reasonable expectations!
Perfect is usually unattainable
Since we are people, not machines!

Good enough, can be great
If we’ve done something with joy
Perfection mingled with misery
Not worth the price we pay
I say

A perfect child
A perfect parent
A perfect marriage
A perfect spouse
Does not exist!
We all have flaws
As painful to hear, as that is!

Demanding perfection
Stresses ourselves and others too
Is perfection wroth that stress?
I don’t think so!

It’s quality of life
Versus perfection in life
I’d rather have a happy child
Than a perfect child!

Striving for excellence is wonderful
When it’s done with joy
And brings you joy!

The demands seeking perfection
Puts on our lives and our souls
Not worth the result
Not in my world!

All this I write as a perfectionist
On the mend
I know what I’m talking about
I’ve been there!

I’m probably still a perfectionist
In many ways
But I’m learning to let go
Of joyless perfection!

Lida Berghuis
February 8th, 2011

Coffee grounds

What do you see in the coffee grounds?
Let your imagination roam
Tell me …
Is that a bird? A pair of boots?
Is that a valley? A cliff? Or just some swirls?

Our imagination
A wonderful tool
Let it free
Let it explore

Too often confined to reason and rules
Our spirit needs to be set free
Go where nothing you create is wrong
All is good
The purpose is joy
Creating beauty
Uplifting souls

Isn’t it wonderful to get lost in thought
Forget the world
Take a ride
On imagination’s wings
And hear the music
No one hears?

Isn’t it wonderful
To give our intuition a chance
To lead for a change
Not lag
At last?

Isn’t it wonderful to
Be free of restrictions and rules
Of convention
Of the desire for perfection
Of what we think we should do?

Isn’t it wonderful to create?
I do think so!

Lida Berghuis
February 8th, 2011