Archive | November 2013

To all the responsible moms!

Take a minute to be silly
You can still be silly you know!

Procrastinate a little bit
It’s OK to miss a deadline once in a while!

Let the dishes pile up
The world won’t fall apart!

Watch a movie instead of paying the bills
Tomorrow is another day!

Don’t feel like cooking tonight?
Take out was made for a reason!

Even responsible people need to have some fun
Goof off, forget things, mess up!
No one can be together all the time!

There are times for being organized
On time and efficient
And there are times for being less than perfect
Life goes on

We put so much pressure on ourselves
We want to do everything right
We want to be there for everyone
And sometimes we forget that the world
Can go on without us for a while

Lida Berghuis
November 28, 2013

Will you love me when I’m sad?

We think we are only lovable
When we are happy and all is fine
We think that others want to be around us
Only when we laugh and have fun

But in reality
Our true friends will love us even more
When our days are dark
And our emotions are low

They know we’re in pain
They know we don’t choose to be sad
They won’t abandon us
At times like that

I’ve been there too
Felt like that
Felt like I’m only lovable
When happy and glad

Felt like my tears would turn people away
Felt like my frown would bring them down

But those who loved me
Showed me I was wrong
They stood by me…
They held my hand when my hope was gone
When my days were cloudy and dark

I came to realise that we all have ups and downs
And the downs are what can bring us closer to those we love

We may feel not lovable at those times
We may wonder what’s wrong with us
We may be impatient with ourselves…
But not so our friends

They will love us back to health
They will give us a reason to go on
That’s what true friends are for
For happy times
But more so, for sad times

Lida Berghuis
November 26th, 2013

Feeling dial!

Why do I always feel so much?
Why can’t I be numb once in a while?
Why can’t I shut down my heart
To the pain and sorrow that’s around?

Not feeling is not the answer
Feeling numb does not make sense!
But feeling less may be OK
I think I need a feelings dial!

But a machine I’m not
And I don’t have a dial
I am who I am
And I have to accept it all
Accept my strengths
And my flaws

This world is not made
For perfect people
But for those who will try
And those who will strive

Strive to be better
Strive to serve
Strive to learn
And not give up

Not give up
In the face of calamity
In the throws of pain
Not give up
When the going gets tough
And the walls come up!

So I’ll live my life
With its tears of sorrow
Its laughter and fun
I’ll feel what I’ll feel
I’ll accept it all
Don’t have much choice
So said a friend of mine!

Lida Berghuis
August 23rd, 2007

A more compassionate world…

These things that happen to us
Why do we call them failures or mistakes?
Why don’t we call them
-a good start
-a valiant effort
-a first step
-a learning experience?

Why are things either a success or a failure?
Why do we see the world in black and white?

Is this based on a competitive model
Where there is always a winner and a loser
Those who get the prize and those who don’t

I’m sure there is a more compassionate way
A model that encourages one to try again
To take the time
Make an effort
To do better next time
A model in which we all win if we try

A model in which mistakes become learning opportunities
Failures, stepping stones
In such a compassionate world
We will grow and thrive even more

Lida Berghuis
November 17th, 2013

Mistakes?,

Life is full of ups and downs
The road is never smooth
Detours lurk here and there
Unpaved roads everywhere

I used to think that for some
The road was smooth
Most of the time
That is was my road that was so hard

I used to think if someone seemed happy
On the outside
They were happy all the time

I used to think that my suffering
Was unique to me
My struggles only mine
I used to wonder why me
Why now…

Now I know all the obstacles
Were blessings in disguise
Now I know that there is no such thing
As a smooth road in life

I used to think there is only one way
To do things right
I used to feel paralyzed
At a fork in life
What if I made a mistake
What if I chose the wrong way?

Now I know all I needed to do
Was to make a start
There are many roads that lead
To the same place
And sometimes we need to go the wrong way
To find the right one!

I used to think
What if I make a mistake
What a giant waste of time
But now I know that mistakes
Are essential parts of life

I used to think I knew what’s best for me
That I was usually right
But I now know
That I’m here to learn
With an open mind

Lida Berghuis
November 14th, 2013

Healed by poetry

Poetry heals
How, you say?
The same way music uplifts you!
The same way a piece of art intrigues you!
The same way a song speaks to you!
The same way a story moves you!

Poetry
Is communion with the ‘Divine’
Poetry is sacred
That’s what I’ve been taught

Rumi, Hafiz, Tahirih
Nourish my soul with magical words
Words like diamonds
Priceless and pure
Words like rain
Wash my pain away

And when I hear a poem I need to hear
It shakes me to my foundation
Truth is revealed
Growth occurs
Someone has touched my soul!

Poetry
The instrument of the Divine
Complex issues
Are laid out

Poetry heals
Poetry guides
Poetry uplifts
Poetry defines

Lida Berghuis
April 26th, 2010
Inspired by ‘Saved by a poem’

Courage!

Courage to change
Courage to grow
Courage to see things
From another view point

Courage to learn
Courage to explore
Courage to go where
One has not gone before

Courage to dream
Courage to work toward that dream
Courage to persevere
Endlessly

Courage to get up
When we fall
Courage to learn
And move on

Courage to face our fears
And overcome
Courage to accept that yet again
We may fall

Courage to love
And be loved
Courage to be able to
Stand one’s ground

Courage to be different
Stand out
Courage to say
What others might not

Courage to be in the
Vanguard of change
Courage is needed
If we want change

Lida Berghuis
April 16th
Montreal Shrine