What can I write about the one who has sacrificed
His freedom for love?
What can I say about the one who can still laugh
Despite these trials?
What can I say about the one whose patience
Is being tested by love?
It seems like we are sometimes punished for love
“the watchman is running after us”
and all seems lost
But if we see the end in the beginning
We will see the light that emanates from this sacrifice
A light so bright
That it illumines the path for the rest of us
Deeds not words are needed today
His deeds an example for all of us
Kindness like honey drips from his every word
The scent of humility wafts gently toward us
What can I say about the one who has sacrificed
His freedom for love?
You inspire us and you make us proud!
Your friendship rejuvenates us and
We honor you for your sacrifice!
I may have figured out my limits somewhat…
But sometimes I don’t read the signals my body and mind
Send me, correctly
The ‘I’m tired’ signal is ignored
The ‘I’m frustrated’ signal is dismissed
The ‘I’ve taken on too much’ signal is pushed away!
At these times
I forget that I’m not super-human
I forget that I can say No!
I forget that I can drop projects temporarily
I forget that I can ask for help
I forget that my energy rises and falls
And sometimes I can do more, and sometimes
I need to do less!
I get caught up in the ‘rat race’ of service
I think more is better
That I will manage somehow
That next week, I will be less tired
That soon, I will catch up on my sleep!
That if I keep smiling, I won’t cry!
I forget to advocate for myself
I forget I don’t have to please everyone
I forget it’s my responsibility to know my limits
And say ‘no’ when it has been reached!
I forget that I need a lot of down-time
Time to write
Time to reflect
Time to meditate
Time to relax!
I keep going despite fatigue
Despite the fact that I get a feeling that
I have taken on too much again!
I don’t listen to the voice that tells me
It’s too much…
You’re not getting enough rest!
You need to ask for help!
You need to communicate better!
But sacrifice is not a net loss!
We may give up things that are dear to us
We do suffer as a result
But then come the rewards
We live in a culture that tries to avoid pain
Tries to avoid giving up things we hold dear
We live in a culture that puts the individual first
Others, come later!
In this culture
Sacrifice may not make sense…
Why should I give up something that’s dear to me
For someone else’s benefit?
Why should I put others before me?
Why should I sacrifice my comfort and ease?
The irony is, that sacrifice
This giving up
This turning away from the self
This focus on others
Is exactly what we need
Sacrifice does involve hardship and pain
Otherwise it would not be called sacrifice
But this hardship will result in amazing things
Given some time
When we give up our will
Something amazing happens in time
It does take time…
There is no fast way through the plane of sacrifice!
But on the other side
Is a fragrant garden
With streams and rivers
Thirst quenching and refreshing and sublime!
Yes, sacrifice involves pain
But these are growing pains
Letting go of the ego
And the insistent self
Can only bring us joy and happiness!