Does anyone feel like they belong?
Don’t each of us feel like outsiders sometime, somewhere?
If we’re in touch with different groups of people
We’re bound to feel like we don’t belong
How does it feel to belong?
It’s feeling accepted and loved despite our flaws
It’s having our uniqueness and individuality acknowledged
And feeling accepted means not feeling judged
But feeling encouraged and celebrated
December 23rd, 2018
Why don’t you do things this way?
Why don’t you wear that?
Why do you take life so hard?
Smile and relax!
We have a lot of advice for everyone else, it seems
And some of it comes from a place of
Compassion of course
But to accept someone as he or she is
That is love that’s mature
It says you don’t need to change to please me or anyone else
You need not improve to be acceptable
You are loved as you are
I respect your choices in life
To respect others’ choices
Especially those we don’t agree with
Is not easy
But when we do
We are sending them the message
That they have agency in their lives
Their decisions count
And they are free to choose their path in life
Sometimes I wonder how I’m friends with people
Who have such different lives from me
Where is the commonality?
Then I realize that underneath all the veneer
The different social roles that we have
The conditions we live in and
The experiences we’ve had
We all long for connection
Connection with someone who
Does not judge and understands
Someone you can talk to about anything
Someone with whom you can cry and laugh
And this connection is a soul connection
It’s based on something deep inside
It’s as if you are on the same wavelength
And if the other person is old or young
Wealthy or not, shares your religion or not
It matters not
In choosing my friends what I look for
Is kindness, compassion and an encouraging nature
Someone I can talk to about things that matter to both of us
We don’t have to agree on everything
We just need to respect one another’s point of view
We all want to be seen and heard
That’s the gift our friend gives us and
That’s what we give back in return
March 7th, 2016