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Unconventional

 

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Sometimes I think about my life

I realize it hasn’t followed the usual patterns we expect

 

I got married while I was a student

To another student

I married outside my culture

At a time when it was not so usual

 

I knew how to drive before my husband did

I changed my major many times

I chose to stay at home to raise my kids

At a time when most women worked outside the house

 

I moved from city to city several times

And when I went back to work

I only worked part time

 

I started writing poetry later in life

In a language that is not my mother tongue

I chose to write about mental health

We need to get rid of the stigma

 

Now, I’ve entered a new phase of life

With more emphasis on writing 

It’s a transition of sorts

I’m still trying to figure it out

 

All of these things make me a little different

Some things I’ve done are unconventional

But I’ve been lucky to have been able to choose my own path

I hope others understand

But if they don’t

I don’t mind

 

April 3rd, 2019

Agency

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Why don’t you do things this way?
Why don’t you wear that?
Why do you take life so hard?
Smile and relax!

We have a lot of advice for everyone else, it seems

And some of it comes from a place of
Compassion of course
But to accept someone as he or she is
That is love that’s mature

It says you don’t need to change to please me or anyone else
You need not improve to be acceptable
You are loved as you are
I respect your choices in life

To respect others’ choices
Especially those we don’t agree with
Is not easy

But when we do
We are sending them the message
That they have agency in their lives
Their decisions count
And they are free to choose their path in life

April 2017