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Freedom to choose

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Why does mandatory head covering bother me so?

It’s because it’s something that is dictated by men to women

Why should men be able to control what women do and what they wear?

Why can they set the rules?

Optional head covering when it’s a woman’s choice I have no issues with

It’s when it’s being forced that it bothers me

Even if this were a religious mandate 

There should be freedom of choice to follow it

And what about those from other religions?

Hair is the adornment of women and men’s heads

Beauty is something to be celebrated

This idea of being aroused by women’s hair their body shape

No longer flies today

We live in a world that has changed

Ideas have changed

And trying to enforce old ways will not be easily tolerated

Women will fight against it

Women will prevail

It would be great if men did their share

To ensure the freedom of choice for women as well

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The path

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One needs to listen to one’s heart

One needs to honour one’s spirit

There are many roads one can take in life

The choice is ours

There are many shoulds and musts

There are many social dictates

If we all went the same way

No new way would be found

Have faith in your choices 

Do what your hearts tells you to do

Of the many roads you can take

Choose the one that delights your heart

There will be foggy patches

There will be unpaved areas

There will be many an oasis

There will be delightful parts

Don’t judge the path other people take

Don’t worry about being judged

We each have different destinies

And we are the architects of our own lives

January 25th, 2021

Unconventional

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Sometimes I think about my life

I realize it hasn’t followed the usual path we expect

I got married while I was a student

To another student

I married outside my culture

At a time when it was not so common

I knew how to drive before my husband did

I changed my major many times

I chose to stay at home to raise my kids

At a time when most women worked outside the house

I moved from city to city several times

And when I went back to work

I only worked part time

I started writing poetry later in life

In a language that is not my mother tongue

I chose to write about mental health

We need to get rid of the stigma

Now, I’ve entered a new phase of life

With more emphasis on writing 

It’s a transition of sorts

I’m still trying to figure it out

All of these things make me a little different

Some things I’ve done are unconventional

But I’ve been lucky to have been able to choose my own path

And let the spirit be my guide

April 3rd, 2019

Agency

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Why don’t you do things this way?
Why don’t you wear that?
Why do you take life so hard?
Smile and relax!

We have a lot of advice for everyone else, it seems

And some of it comes from a place of
Compassion of course
But to accept someone as he or she is
That is love that’s mature

It says you don’t need to change to please me or anyone else
You need not improve to be acceptable
You are loved as you are
I respect your choices in life

To respect others’ choices
Especially those we don’t agree with
Is not easy

But when we do
We are sending them the message
That they have agency in their lives
Their decisions count
And they are free to choose their path in life

April 2017