What is the secret?
Saying good bye to perfectionism
Being able to be vulnerable
And share your shortcomings or problems
Not being afraid of being judged
With that comes freedom
Freedom to be who you really are
Freedom to break the heavy masks of pretention
With that comes serenity, peacefulness
With that comes feeling light, having nothing to hide
With that comes authentic friendships which bring you joy
This is the secret
February 23, 2024
In our lives
We wear various masks
To appear ‘normal’
To look ‘happy’
So many people wear the mask of ‘normal’
That we feel we will stand out if we don’t
So many of us put on a show
That the show appears to be reality
But so often behind the mask of happy
Hides an injured heart, a despondent soul
Someone looking for love
When one of us takes off the mask of perfection
Admits to having challenges, needing support
It’s easier for someone else to do the same
And if this process happens enough times
We will feel less inclined to hide
Hide our true feelings
Hide our distress
Hide what’s bothering us
Pretend we’re fine!
Lida Berghuis
December 15th, 2014
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