Tag Archive | listening

Let’s talk

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How are you?

Are you feeling OK?

I’m not expecting to hear that you are fine

That you’re managing well

It’s OK if today you don’t feel well

How often do we ask how are you 

Expecting the same answer?

What should we do if the answer is not OK?

How can I help you we may say

Would you like to grab a coffee and talk?

I won’t give you advice

I won’t tell you to be thankful for all you have

I’ll simply listen and let you empty your cup

This is not always easy for me

The need to give advice is always there

But advice is not needed in these instances

Just acknowledging the hurt will do

Just letting someone know you care

And that they are not alone in their pain

I know this because I’ve been there

I’ve been the person who was not OK

And when my friends simply listened to me

They lifted my spirit and helped me persevere

Some problems can’t be fixed right away

The road to healing may be long

And what’s most important is to know

You have friends that you can count on

January 26th, 2021

Morning pages

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Write what you want
Empty your cup
Let your mind roam around and explore
There is no particular goal
Write about what has been
Write about what’s to come
Write about your hope and dreams
Just write
We all need to express ourselves
We need to be listened to
Your pages are your companion
Always ready to listen to you
Morning pages
Write what you want
Empty your cup
This is your gift to you

May 15th, 2018

 

You and I

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I’m a roaring waterfall
You are a serene lake
I’m fire and fury
You are cool stream flowing
I talk before I think
You think so long, before you talk
That I become impatient
I am the talkative one
You are the best listener
I’m spontaneous
You like routine

You’re a night owl
And I’m an early bird
You’re super organized
I try my best
You make me laugh
I love laughter
You’re the reason I came out
Of my shell
You are tactful
I speak my mind
You are diplomatic
I am not!
You are the rock
And I lay against you
You are sunshine
And I bathe in you

January 31st, 2018

Our house

 

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I look at you
I listen to you with the ear of my heart
I focus on your face and your body language
I open myself to possibility
I leave judgement behind
I come from a place of compassion
I rejoice in your happiness
And am saddened by your sorrow
I acknowledge you
I add another few bricks to the house of
Our friendship

January 18th, 2018

Kindred spirits

Kindred spirits
Those who understand you
Respect you
Love you
And support you

Feeling understood
Makes all the difference in the world
Someone says I see you
I hear you

The desire to be seen and heard
Is common to all of us
I think that’s what it means to be loved

That’s why a good friend is a good listener
That’s why a good friend does not judge
That’s why a good friend accepts you the way you are

I see you
I hear you
I respect you
These are the things that mean I love you
April 17th, 2017

All I needed

When I was in pain
All I wanted was to be listened to
To feel that someone saw and felt my pain
That they acknowledged my suffering
Without judging or giving advice
I didn’t need to be told what the silver lining was
Or how fortunate I was

Sometimes I just wanted to be held and consoled
Sometimes all I needed to hear was:
This must be so difficult for you
This would give me the strength to carry on

And this is what I have to remember
When someone else shares with me their pain

 

March 22nd, 2016

Mothering matters

What do you say to an employer when you want to
Reenter the workforce, the paid workforce?

What do you put down for those years in your CV?

Here’s an idea:

Skills developed: management, organization, problem solving skills
Research, conflict resolution, and thinking on your feet!

Interpersonal qualities honed: listening skills, perseverance, assertiveness
being open to learning, patience, and compassion to name a few
Skills that will make you a wonderful team player at work

Which employer would not like this?
Which employer would think that you have ‘lost’ those years
Or put your personal development on hold?
Which employer would not want someone who has
Learned how to prioritize, analyze and sympathize?

And at the same time, you have nurtured and trained
the next generation to the best of your ability

So, next time someone asks you what happened during
Those years and that time
Tell them you were mothering and in the meantime
Doing continuing education in the fields above!

Lida Berghuis
January 6th, 2014